Feminity part 1

Feminity 1

What is femininity

It is a receiving energy. It is a nurturing, caring energy.

What is masculinity

It is a giving energy. It is a providing, protecting energy.

Why do we immerse ourselves in masculine energy

We don’t have anyone providing or protecting us or our families so we have to do it on our own

We may have been raised by a single mother so we develop the characteristics that our Mothers had to take care of us.

It is difficult to get out of that masculine energy and it takes practice.

We have to get out of the need for control.

We have spaces that we control.

Some women may control the household and finances

Your skills will help out your household hatever they might be

So in order to embrace our femininity e have to get used to men doing things for us and you may have been on your on for a long time.

So we need to carry ourselves in a feminine manner.

What are you looking for in a relationship?

What problems have you run into before?

Let’s start with our first date.

You can start talking to a man to let him know you are interested but you should not ask him out.  You should dress modestly and speak with a softer tone. I don’t mean ear your grandmother’s clothes, but leave a little to the imagination.  Make sure you take compliments from him and say thank you.

Ask general questions like what does he do for work? What does he do in his spare time? What are some of his goals?

You’re looking to see if his concept of family life matches yours. You want to see that he has a vision that aligns with yours. You want to see that you have some things in common. Make sure you know if he would mind your working in a serious relationship. If you are not looking for a serious relationship make sure you date around. If you are looking for a serious relationship you should still date around and pick the best option. If he gives you a lot of information that you didn’t ask it’s probably false. On the first few dates guys may make a false impression.

After a few dates you should know whether or not he is serious about you. You should know where he lives and have met some family if he is serious. You want to see how he acts around other people. He will probably act a little different. You just want to make sure it’s not a concerning difference. He should be consistent with you. He should return messages and answer phone calls. Most of your conversations should be in person or on the/phone. Don’t use a lot omessaging because it is easy to misunderstand messages.

You shouldn’t have an intimate relationship if you don’t know where you are going. You have to have a consistent and clear relationship to know if he is serious about you. Guys can pretend for up to 3 months or more if you are not having a lot of contact.

You want to make sure that you have compatibility. You can achieve a bond if you find a few months to do things such as go on short trips, dinner, whatever kinds of fun activities you like to do.  Everyone is out here looking for their soulmate and at some point you have to make a choice because you probably won’t get everything you are looking for, but the big things are important.

The most important thing is to have a vision, a friendship, good conversation, and fun together. It’s important that you have someone that you enjoy being around and has somethings that you don’t have so you can compliment one another.

Homework: Write down What you spend each month and sign up for my femininity classes by emailing me @diamondsorlightbooks@gmail.com or on instagram @diamondsorlight.